Let Go: Because You’re Worth It

As caregivers, it seems we’re always taking on more and more, which just adds to our already crazy stress level. So, what can we let go of to lighten our load? Here are a few suggestions from my own experience.

Being nice, no matter what. Strive to be kind, but nice is not always possible. Sometimes, you just have to speak your truth.

Relationships that aren’t working. People change. Needs change. Sometimes, stepping away is the healthiest thing, even if it’s only temporary.

Expectations of how others should act. That is a guaranteed misery maker. Am I right? You can only control your own actions, and even that’s tough, sometimes.

Second-guessing decisions. The reality is that caregiving often puts you in heartbreaking, no-win situations. Don’t beat yourself up. You can only work with what you have.

Trying to be the perfect caregiver/daughter/partner/sister. Who you are is good enough. Let me repeat. Who you are is good enough.

Worrying what others think. I stopped giving a rat’s patootie about this early on. No one has walked in your shoes, and there will always be “judgers,” no matter what you do.

Trying to fix everything. This was a hard one for me. Despite your love, concern, and efforts there are simply some things that can not be fixed.

Even if your choices are different than mine, it’s clear that letting go begins with the belief that caring for ourselves is just as important as caring for a family member.

What are some of the things on your list?



  1. Judith Evans says:

    Just found your blog and boy, did I need to read this! Been beating myself up all day and am now determined to do some much needed letting go. Thank you!

  2. Debbie Young says:

    So, what your are telling me dear friend is even control freaks like us can let go?!

    A work in progress…..

    Had a mini-meltdown about mom, had a good cry, then went to Publix and got some good organic vanilla ice cream and ate a big bowl! No guilt, pure joy. While it did not fix anything it helped me let go a bit.

    So, I will take your suggestions to heart, and keep on keeping on.

    Thanks for your timely post.


    • Judith Henry says:

      Indeed, sweet friend, for CFs like us, a daily practice. 🙂 I know this is so hard and there are days when it’s all just too much. A good cry and a big bowl of special vanilla ice cream are exactly what’s needed. Sending love and strong hugs your way.Deb XOXO Jude

  3. Diane says:

    Yesss! All of the above!

    • Judith Henry says:

      Diane, thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment! So glad we’re on the same page. 🙂 I’m off to check out your website!

  4. Jenny Mowrer says:

    I love this. While I know all of this in my heart, its always helpful to see it in print.

    • Judith Henry says:

      Thanks so much, Jen! We all need the reinforcement now and then, and also to know we’re not alone in our thinking. Take care!

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