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As caregivers, it seems we’re always taking on more and more, which just adds to our already crazy stress level. So, what can we let go of to lighten our load? Here are a few suggestions from my own experience.<\/p>\n
Being nice, no matter what.<\/em> Strive to be kind, but nice is not always possible. Sometimes, you just have to speak your truth.<\/p>\n Relationships that aren’t working.<\/em> People change. Needs change. Sometimes, stepping away is the healthiest thing, even if it\u2019s only temporary.<\/p>\n Expectations of how others should act.<\/em> That is a guaranteed misery maker. Am I right? You can only control your own actions, and even that’s tough, sometimes.<\/p>\n Second-guessing decisions.<\/em> The reality is that caregiving often puts you in heartbreaking, no-win situations. Don\u2019t beat yourself up. You can only work with what you have.<\/p>\n Trying to be the perfect caregiver\/daughter\/partner\/sister.<\/em> Who you are is good enough. Let me repeat. Who you are is good enough.<\/p>\n Worrying what others think. <\/em>I stopped giving a rat’s patootie about this early on. No one has walked in your shoes, and there will always be “judgers,” no matter what you do.<\/p>\n Trying to fix everything.<\/em>\u00a0This was a hard one for me. Despite your love, concern, and efforts there are simply some things that can not be fixed.<\/p>\n Even if your choices are different than mine, it’s clear that letting go begins with the belief that caring for ourselves is just as important as caring for a family member.<\/p>\n What are some of the things on your list?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" As caregivers, it seems we’re always taking on more and more, which just adds to our already crazy stress level. So, what can we let go of to lighten our load? Here are a few suggestions from my own experience. Being nice, no matter what. Strive to be kind, but nice is not always possible. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1144,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[21,35],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1143"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1143"}],"version-history":[{"count":25,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1143\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1169,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1143\/revisions\/1169"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1144"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1143"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1143"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.judithdhenry.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1143"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}